What is it about the codependent husband's incessant drive to please and obvious neediness that makes him a target for poor treatment?
I once thought I was a good man,
I once thought I was okay
I once thought I could get by in life by seeing through the day
But now I find I’m tired when the day has just begun
And in the evening she waits for me, she waits for me and prays
That my love will save her – from what she can’t even say.
And I guess I’m not a good man
I’m selfish through and through
because I use her pain to justify doing things I shouldn’t do.
Could I really save her? And what would be the toll?
I don’t care enough to risk her neediness devouring my soul.
The Codependent Wife In Popular Culture
Nancy, in Oliver!
Kind-hearted Nancy, in Dickens’ Oliver Twist, is utterly devoted to her man Bill Sykes, an ice-cold, violent criminal. Undefended and ill-equipped, this was never going to end well.
We are truly in codependent home territory here, as this kidnapper looks to her prisoner for emotional reinforcement, in the 1980s comedy Ruthless People.