Movie Transcript
Steve: From Sexual attraction, we move on now to the other extreme in our subject of the kind of love that comes as a lesson for our soul.
Is there any such thing as a soul mate? What attracts us at a soul level?
Kim: I think that the idea that there is one perfect soul mate out there waiting for us is rubbish! There are many people we might live happily and compatibly with. The reason that love goes wrong is too often blamed on the wrong choice of partner, rather than the truth that both partners lack relationship skills.
Steve: A soul mate is really someone who, at a deeper level, has a lesson for you and this might not always be pleasant!
Kim: Yes, I know now that we were attracted to each other because, at some level, we knew that we were not going to let each other get away with staying as immature as we both were about some things.
As painful as our relationship first was, it did force us both to grow and learn new ways of living.
Steve: Kim taught me to be accountable.
Kim: And although a few years ago I would not have said it, I learned some of the most valuable lessons in my life from you too!
You see, I had been very lonely as a child and I looked forward to love as being someone who would make me feel better when I was sad and someone who would help me deal with a lot of bad feelings that I often felt overwhelmed with. But Steve would have nothing to do with that game and, as painful as that was, in the end it did teach me that I really needed to learn to self soothe and take care of those emotions myself.
Wanting someone else to ‘make me feel better’ and not knowing how to do that myself, was part of why I was lonely in the first place. Since I have learned how to deal with my own negative emotions bette, my life has improved beyond compare.
Steve: So, soul level love can be painful and push you to develop in ways you may have never thought yourself capable of. It is a powerful thing but you need to see that if you are feeling deep pain because of a relationship in your life perhaps there is a challenge there for you.
Kim: This doesn’t mean that it is your fault if someone abuses you, though.
Steve: The lesson there is you learning to stand up for yourself.
Kim: And communicate in a way that you gain others support in protecting yourself.
Like with me, I had to stop crying and wanting you to make me feel better, start learning to defend myself and gain other peoples respect and support in holding you accountable for how you were treating me.
Steve: You should never tolerate abuse. Kim’s eBooks: ‘Back from the Looking Glass’ and ‘The Love Safety Net Workbook’ will teach you how to defend yourself and get help.
Kim: While holding your ground and not running away.
Because this was a lesson for me too. I used to fight you but really that made me weaker and a soft target. It didn’t help me at all.
Steve: You used to be my favorite scapegoat but now you are my best friend.
You see, when we meet the challenge that our soul lessons offer us in love, the bond between two people becomes unbreakable.
Kim: You might not be my soul mate Steve but you are my souls companion and my heart’s best friend.
Steve: You see, this kind of challenge, as painful as it may be, can forge a relationship made of steel.
I never would have seen that once. Once, I thought Kim was the biggest mistake I ever made but the trouble we got into together, forced us both to grow and change.
Kim: So, there is a soul connection with us now and it is something that is worth the pain of how it was forged
So, to find this kind of connection, takes the courage to stop blaming and see where you need to grow, understand that growth is scary and painful but, like a terrible storm at sea, the waves of fear will surely pass and you will emerge, tempered by the storm to a world washed clean.
Steve: But if you continue to ignore your own lessons and choose to blame instead, you may be in real danger indeed!
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