{"id":721,"date":"2016-02-06T08:13:04","date_gmt":"2016-02-06T08:13:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/?p=721"},"modified":"2023-11-29T06:26:49","modified_gmt":"2023-11-29T06:26:49","slug":"your-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/narcissist\/signs-narcissism\/your-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Married to a Narcissist?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wpb-content-wrapper\">[vc_row remove_bottom_col_margin=&#8221;true&#8221; css=&#8221;.vc_custom_1614656737799{margin-top: 0px !important;}&#8221;][vc_column width=&#8221;1\/2&#8243;][\/vc_column][vc_column width=&#8221;1\/2&#8243;][vc_column_text css=&#8221;.vc_custom_1614656865232{margin-top: 0px !important;margin-right: 70px !important;margin-bottom: 15px !important;}&#8221;]\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16px;\"><a title=\"Our Story\" href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/narcissist\/signs-narcissism-marriage\/our-story\/\"><span style=\"font-size: 13px;\"><span style=\"color: #333333;\">Click Here to Read Our Story of Hope<\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row wpex_bg_overlay=&#8221;color&#8221; 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font-family: Merriweather;\"><em><span style=\"color: #000000;\">You give your marriage your best, but it is never enough<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\"><em><span style=\"color: #000000;\">You feel neglected &amp; in emotional despair<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\"><em><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Your arguments go round in circles &amp; never get resolved<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\"><em><span style=\"color: #000000;\">You are worried you both need years of therapy<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\"><em><span style=\"color: #000000;\">You sometimes worry, &#8220;Maybe it&#8217;s me who&#8217;s causing the fights?&#8221;<\/span><\/em><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][vc_column width=&#8221;1\/3&#8243;][vc_column_text css_animation=&#8221;slideInRight&#8221; responsive_text=&#8221;true&#8221; css=&#8221;.vc_custom_1614656892823{margin-top: 0px !important;margin-right: 60px !important;}&#8221;]\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/bookshop\/\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-276\" src=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/Back_From_the_Looking_Glass_2013.png\" alt=\"Steps to Peaceful Home - Beyond Marriage Counselling\" width=\"231\" height=\"367\" srcset=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/Back_From_the_Looking_Glass_2013.png 647w, https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/Back_From_the_Looking_Glass_2013-94x150.png 94w, https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/Back_From_the_Looking_Glass_2013-189x300.png 189w, https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/Back_From_the_Looking_Glass_2013-644x1024.png 644w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 231px) 100vw, 231px\" \/><\/a><span style=\"font-size: 13px;\">Our best seller\u2014now in its 11th edition<\/span><\/p>\n[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row css=&#8221;.vc_custom_1589004930707{border-top-width: 1px !important;border-right-width: 2px !important;border-left-width: 1px !important;padding-top: 5px !important;padding-right: 15px !important;padding-bottom: 15px !important;padding-left: 15px !important;border-left-color: #010a84 !important;border-right-color: #010a84 !important;border-top-color: #010a84 !important;border-radius: 4px !important;}&#8221;][vc_column][vc_column_text]\n<h3>Narcissism in Your Marriage Looks Like This . . .<\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/narcissistic_personality_disorder_looks_like_this.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-55\" src=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/narcissistic_personality_disorder_looks_like_this.png\" alt=\"narcissistic personality disorder looks like this - man yelling at woman\" width=\"207\" height=\"175\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 21px;\">Your Partner Treats You Different in Private than in Public<\/span><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"color: #800000; font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\"><em>In public they act like the perfect <a style=\"color: #800000;\" title=\"Women and Men Can Both Show Signs of Narcissism\" href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/narcissist\/signs-narcissism-marriage\/women-and-men-can-both-show-signs-of-narcissism\/\">husband\u00a0or\u00a0wife<\/a>\u00a0 . . . but in private are sarcastic, haughty and insulting, criticising you and putting you down. No one is safe from their criticism . . .\u00a0 putting down family and friends behind their backs<\/em>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\"><span class=\"dropcap\">A<\/span> person with <a title=\"Signs of Your Own Narcissism\" href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/narcissist\/signs-narcissism-marriage\/in-yourself\/\">signs of narcissism<\/a> will often act like they are better than you, showing little regard for your feelings or well-being. They may be arrogant, aggressive and controlling; or withdrawn and unavailable. They will usually show favouritism between your children.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><em><span style=\"color: #800000; font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">Their criticism and insults may cause you and\/or your children to feel hurt and rejected and can even lead to mental health and psychological problems and addictions within your family.<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">A person with <a title=\"Signs of Your Own Narcissism\" href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/narcissist\/signs-narcissism-marriage\/in-yourself\/\">signs of narcissism<\/a> will get angry when they are questioned and believe they deserve things they haven\u2019t earned. They may also trade off other people&#8217;s reputation and hard work and tell lies and manipulate people to get attention. At the same time, they will act charming and perfect to the outside world and make other people believe they are a wonderful <a title=\"Women and Men Can Both Show Signs of Narcissism\" href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/narcissist\/signs-narcissism-marriage\/women-and-men-can-both-show-signs-of-narcissism\/\">father or mother<\/a> or an all-round great <a title=\"Women and Men Can Both Show Signs of Narcissism\" href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/narcissist\/signs-narcissism-marriage\/women-and-men-can-both-show-signs-of-narcissism\/\">guy or gal<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><em><span style=\"color: #800000; font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">You may fear that people won\u2019t believe you if you let them know how this person talks to you in private\u2014or if you share the terrible things they say behind other people&#8217;s backs.<\/span><\/em>[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text css=&#8221;.vc_custom_1614659774737{margin-bottom: 30px !important;}&#8221;]\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 21px;\">Unfortunately, That&#8217;s Not All<\/span><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">A narcissistic partner will paint a bad picture of you to their family and friends. They will do this to try to gain sympathy and justify their bad behaviour.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #800000; font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\"><em>You probably have no idea of all of the lies they are telling you and the lies and exaggerations they are telling other people <strong>about you<\/strong>. \u00a0A person blaming their own problems on other people is one of the major signs of narcissism.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><span style=\"font-family: georgia, palatino; font-size: 16px;\">~ Select any text on this page to see our <em>share on Twitter and Facebook function ~<\/em><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 21px;\">Fights About Money<\/span><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">Creating fights when you try to discuss money is one of the most common signs of unhealthy narcissism. They will pretend these fights are your fault. You should know that the fights might be a smokescreen to hide the fact they are hiding credit cards or money transactions.<\/span>[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text]<a href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/improve_your_self_image.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-52\" src=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/improve_your_self_image.png\" alt=\"improve_your_self_image\" width=\"366\" height=\"275\" srcset=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/improve_your_self_image.png 366w, https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/improve_your_self_image-300x225.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 366px) 100vw, 366px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 21px;\">Mind Elsewhere?<\/span><\/h4>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">Because narcissists are skilled liars and are usually\u00a0<a title=\"Narcissism Love &amp; Sex\" href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/narcissist\/signs-narcissism-marriage\/love-sex\/\">obsessed with the fantasy of a perfect relationship<\/a>, you should be aware that they may have secret crushes or be <a title=\"Affairs: Physical\/Emotional\/Fantasy\" href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/narcissist\/signs-narcissism-marriage\/marital-affairs\/\">having affairs<\/a>, <a title=\"Narcissism Love &amp; Sex\" href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/narcissist\/signs-narcissism-marriage\/love-sex\/\">using pornography and\/or conducting \u2018cyber\u2019 affairs<\/a> without your knowledge . . .\u00a0 If you notice their mind often appears elsewhere, and they show other <a title=\"Signs of Your Own Narcissism\" href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/narcissist\/signs-narcissism-marriage\/in-yourself\/\">signs of narcissism<\/a>, you should know this may be the reason.<\/span>[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text css=&#8221;.vc_custom_1589005062136{margin-top: 30px !important;margin-bottom: 40px !important;}&#8221;]\n<p style=\"padding-left: 40px;\"><span style=\"color: #800000; font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\"><em>Obsession with fantasy is part of what makes <a style=\"color: #800000;\" href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/definition-narcissistic\/n-personality\/\">a person with narcissistic tendencies<\/a> unavailable, impatient and angry. It is one of the major <a style=\"color: #800000;\" title=\"Signs of Your Own Narcissism\" href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/narcissist\/signs-narcissism-marriage\/in-yourself\/\">signs of narcissism<\/a>. You may not want to consider this possibility, I know I didn\u2019t believe it until the evidence was right in front of me . . . \u00a0and then I was shattered.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text css=&#8221;.vc_custom_1614659877786{margin-top: 20px !important;}&#8221;]<a href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/distressed_woman.png\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-full wp-image-54\" src=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/distressed_woman.png\" alt=\"distressed_woman\" width=\"357\" height=\"284\" srcset=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/distressed_woman.png 357w, https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/distressed_woman-300x239.png 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 357px) 100vw, 357px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-size: 21px;\">Unfortunately, There&#8217;s More . . .<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px;\">Not all <a href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/the-narcissist\/\">narcissists<\/a> are physically abusive, but a <a title=\"Beyond Marriage Counselling\" href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/\">Narcissistic\/Codependent Marriage<\/a> is a significant indicator that you may end up part of a violent marriage.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #800000; font-size: 21px;\"><em>The <a style=\"color: #800000;\" href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/forms-of-abuse\/domestic-abuse\/\">physical abuse<\/a> is not always perpetrated by the narcissist. It is normal to become angry with someone who manipulates you and puts you down.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px;\">Narcissists have a much higher chance than average of being murdered when their partner finally gets fed up with being exploited and abused.<\/span>[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text]\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">After years of their insults, rudeness and blaming you for everything that is wrong in their life, it is actually quite normal\u2014especially if you discover that throughout all of this that they have been cheating on you\u2014for you to wish them harm or even wish them dead. While understandable, this is obviously very serious and so getting the right help and support is important, but nearly be impossible to find.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\"><span style=\"color: #800000;\"><em>We want to see you moving past feeling<\/em><\/span><em style=\"color: #800000;\"> resentful and wanting to punish your partner\u2014or wanting revenge\u2014to feeling secure and good about yourself and moving into a new time in your life where you are loved, respected and valued in your home and community.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-size: 21px;\">Dangerous Advice<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">There are people who will tell you that the only answer is to \u2018leave and have no contact\u2019, <a href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/blog\/when-running-becomes-a-trap\/\">but this can be dangerous advice<\/a>. This is exactly how to provoke and escalate rage and physical (and emotional) abuse and violence in couples with these problems. It can also result in stalking. Even worse\u2014as the partner of a narcissist will often feel enraged at how callously their spouse can \u2018cast them aside\u2014the perpetrator of the violence and stalking might be you!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #800000; font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\"><em>More people are killed or injured in domestic disputes when leaving their relationship\u2014or in the two months after leaving\u2014than at any other time.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">If you want to leave, please first get our advice in <a href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/books\/back-from-the-looking-glass\/\">Back From the Looking Glass<\/a> on how to do this safely and get closure. You need to consider that moving somewhere else may put you on even less sure footing than you are already. Leaving is no guarantee the fighting will cease or that you will be safer. Instead, statistics show that it will often make the fighting worse and leave your children in more danger.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-size: 21px;\">Your Children&#8217;s Safety<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"color: #800000; font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\"><em>You may be able to get away, but will your children be safe visiting your partner without you there to supervise? And what about potential abuse down the line from step-parents? I am not telling you to leave or stay. What I am saying is that <strong>this is not an easy problem to solve<\/strong> and you need to be careful whose advice you listen to and make sure to think this through carefully.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">When it comes to you and your children&#8217;s safety, statistics show the main issue is NOT\u00a0whether you leave or stay. <span style=\"color: #800000;\"><em>The main issue is that you resolve the conflict.<\/em><\/span> <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">Statistically, the best result for your children is that you resolve the conflict and stay together, so of course, that is a great thing to aim for if possible. The worst outcome\u2014statistically\u2014is if you divorce and don&#8217;t resolve the conflict. So really this should be the option of last resort and only embarked upon with extreme caution.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">If you understand this, you will see that people who tell you to just leave\u2014without trying anything else to resolve the conflict\u2014are telling you to settle for the worst possible option for you and your children&#8217;s safety and well being. Leaving without resolving the conflict <em>may\u00a0end up the only option left after trying everything else<\/em>, but if this ends up the case\u2014more than anyone\u2014you will need our help and advice!<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-size: 21px;\">Don&#8217;t Use Leaving as a Threat<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"color: #150926; font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\"><em>You should also know that leaving or threatening to leave is NOT a sure way of making your partner want to change and feel sorry about their behaviour. Don&#8217;t find out the hard way that threatening to leave is more likely to make the conflict worse and increase the potential for serious consequences. As this will leave your partner in a position where they feel they have nothing left to lose it can even lead to homicide\/suicide.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-size: 21px;\">NPD is not ASPD<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">Other dangerous advice you will read\u00a0on the internet is that people showing signs of narcissism are in fact\u00a0<em><span class=\"style_16\">sociopaths (a type of\u00a0<\/span><\/em>psychopath or what is now known as antisocial personality disorder or ASPD). This disinformation was spread by a man who was later actually diagnosed ASPD\u2014live on TV\u2014and is not the truth about NPD. Narcissism is a very difficult thing to deal with in a partner\u2014and you certainly shouldn&#8217;t try and handle this without help and advice\u2014but despite a lot of confusion in the past, the latest DSM (official manual on mental illness) no longer classifies NPD as incurable.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">For your interest here is a book review from our best selling title <a href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/books\/back-from-the-looking-glass\/\">Back From the Looking Glass<\/a>\u00a0from a Clinical Psychotherapist who is a real expert in treating people with NPD.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"paragraph_style_7\" style=\"padding-left: 60px; text-align: left;\"><em><span class=\"style_16\" style=\"font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif; color: #150926;\">Kim\u2019s advice matches my 25 years of clinical experience as a psychotherapist. In contrast to much of the misleading information on the internet that confuses the narcissist with a sociopath, Kim gives clear advice that offers realistic help and hope for people who struggle with narcissism in their relationships. Kim is right in her assertion that narcissism is created from attachment wounds and can be healed within the context of a healing relationship that allows healthy dependency and good boundaries. I am so grateful to have found Kim and I constantly refer my clients to her resources!<\/span><span class=\"style_17\"><br \/>\n<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"paragraph_style_7\" style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\">Lisa Charlebois<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\"> Clinical Psychotherapist<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-family: arial, helvetica, sans-serif;\"> and author of \u201cYou Might Be a Narcissist If . . .\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-size: 21px;\">Narcissism is Blind to Itself<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">Despite the hope we offer, you need to understand that <a title=\"Signs of Your Own Narcissism\" href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/narcissist\/signs-narcissism\/in-yourself\/\"><em>narcissism is blind to itself<\/em><\/a> and so you mustn&#8217;t expect your partner is ever going to want to fix this. Instead, we offer you training and skills that will help make you emotionally and physically safer and will eventually help bring you love and respect in your community and home. To achieve this you will first need to find the resolve and courage to end the conflict. This won&#8217;t happen from you complaining to your partner, playing counsellor or trying to please them. Instead, you are going to need to learn some new skills. I share a lot more about this\u2014including a free short video\u2014in our free introductory tutorial.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #800000; font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\"><em>Do you sometimes worry that yourself or your partner will need years of therapy to get better? I once believed this was the only thing that would help us, but it was very different <a style=\"color: #800000;\" href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/codependent\/codependency-self-help\/back-from-the-looking-glass\/\">steps that turned our marriage around<\/a>.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">I struggled with this problem for years on my own and it was one of the hardest times of my life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">There is a lot of evidence that <a href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/narcissist\/self-help-for-narcissism\/beyond-dysfunction\/\">therapy is not successful in treating narcissistic personality disorder<\/a>\u2014so please don&#8217;t worry\u2014you won\u2019t need to try and coerce your partner into therapy.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span style=\"font-size: 21px;\">A Reparative Relationship<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">Personality disorders are best helped with a <em>reparative relationship<\/em>. This is why we sometimes call our approach \u2018parenting the adult\u2019; Just as learning new parenting skills can help a child feel safe and learn better behaviour, I want to help you learn new ways of responding and relating to your partner that will help de-escalate the fights and also help you become a better parent.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">I will share exactly what to do and give you each step in detail with all the common mistakes you should avoid.<br \/>\n<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">I hope sharing our experience will protect you from some of the mistakes we made and the bitter and nasty people I ran into when I first discovered Steve\u2019s narcissism. We have the information you need that you can put to use immediately and advice on how to find the best professionals to help.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">I look forward to sharing the steps I took to fix our marriage even when everyone said it was hopeless.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #800000; font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\"><em>It took us a long time to go public with our story, but after things had been better for a few years with us we decided we just couldn\u2019t stay quiet any longer.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 21px; font-family: Merriweather;\">We saw so many people suffering we decided we just had to speak up. 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