{"id":3120,"date":"2018-01-26T01:03:13","date_gmt":"2018-01-26T01:03:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/?p=3120"},"modified":"2018-09-03T06:34:32","modified_gmt":"2018-09-03T06:34:32","slug":"man-wont-commit","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/codependent\/codependency-self-help\/man-wont-commit\/","title":{"rendered":"The Man Who Won’t Commit"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>The Man Who Won’t Commit Emotionally (or whose eyes keep straying)<\/h3>\n

Revised and republished from The Narcissism Daily Mirror<\/span><\/p>\n

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w<\/span>omen’s tendencies are to want to pull this guy’s emotional profile apart and try and figure out what makes him tick, but I will leave that subject to the psychiatrists.\u00a0 Instead I want to offer some straightforward advice on what actions you can take to draw a man closer, commit emotionally and want to spend the rest of his life with you.<\/p>\n

The ideas I will suggest here will work best when practiced in tandem with the rest of our program, particularly if you are in a relationship where love has turned sour and there is a lot of anger and abuse going on. Learning to limit physical abuse if it is present should take priority over anything else and if you are experiencing this I suggest you purchase and read our ebook\u00a0Back from the Looking Glass<\/a>\u00a0immediately and start working through our 13 steps to a peaceful home.<\/p>\n

I know a lot of readers here are already working through those steps, so today I want to offer some specific advice to help the man in your life decide that he\u00a0wants<\/i>\u00a0to draw close to you emotionally and physically.<\/p>\n

The first thing I want to share is a bit delicate I guess but I had better just come right out and say it . . .<\/p>\n

Back when Steve and I were fighting, I was blaming him for running emotionally hot and cold and having his eye on other women. Now although this was true, I was like a bad guitarist that instead of seeing I needed music lessons, was blaming my guitar for the nasty sounds coming out of it \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

Emotional Abuse?<\/h3>\n

As tough as it is to say, I have found that most people claiming they are being emotionally abused, are in fact using their emotions in manipulative ways that destroy love.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately many women consider their emotions tools they can use to elicit an emotional or care-taking response . . .<\/p>\n