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My Husband (or wife) Never Wants to Talk \ud83d\ude41<\/h2>\n[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]\"Talk<\/a><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Updated August 8th, 2019<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Companionship: a Two Way Street<\/h3>\n

“They never talk to me”<\/strong><\/em>, is the most common complaint I hear from codependents about their marriage partner.<\/p>\n

I find this especially sad, because this person rarely sees the depth of this wound or the truly tragic consequences it has had on their life.<\/p>\n

So sad,<\/em> I can hardly bear writing about its origins. My early years in this type of parental relationship is certainly a dark chapter I am glad to have moved past in my life…<\/p>\n

The Codependent’s Gap With Conversation Skills<\/h2>\n

C<\/span>odependency begins with a child taking care of a self centred (and usually drug addicted or alcoholic) parent.<\/p>\n

Their mum (or dad) may have sat home drinking (or taking other drugs), feeling rejected or abandoned by their spouse, while the child was used as little more than a dumping ground for this parent’s most selfish mind states and self indulgent monologues.<\/p>\n

Many times the parent may have accused the child of not talking to them (in the same way they blamed their absent spouse), when really it was the parent who was leaving no room for conversation.<\/p>\n

This child was probably told how ‘special’ and important they were. For being themselves? No, you guessed it…\u00a0 they were special for listening and taking care of their parent.<\/p>\n

The bad conversation habits a codependent learns\u00a0 from this experience:<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n