{"id":2043,"date":"2016-09-22T00:59:08","date_gmt":"2016-09-22T00:59:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/?p=2043"},"modified":"2018-12-13T10:01:57","modified_gmt":"2018-12-13T10:01:57","slug":"porn-the-seductress","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/narcissist\/signs-narcissism\/porn-the-seductress\/","title":{"rendered":"Narcissism &#038; Porn; The Seductress Who Leaves Men Nothing"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"wpb-content-wrapper\">[vc_row][vc_column css=&#8221;.vc_custom_1474509775315{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}&#8221;][vc_column_text css=&#8221;.vc_custom_1474523234777{margin-bottom: 25px !important;}&#8221;]\n<p><strong>Check Out Our New Audio Program on YouTube . . . <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"wpex-responsive-media\"><\/p>\n<div class=\"container-lazyload preview-lazyload container-youtube js-lazyload--not-loaded\"><a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/HhGMD-FjXKc\" class=\"lazy-load-youtube preview-lazyload preview-youtube\" data-video-title=\"Narcissism &amp; Pornography\" title=\"Play video &quot;Narcissism &amp; Pornography&quot;\">https:\/\/youtu.be\/HhGMD-FjXKc<\/a><noscript>Video can&#8217;t be loaded because JavaScript is disabled: <a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/HhGMD-FjXKc\" title=\"Narcissism &amp; Pornography\">Narcissism &amp; Pornography (https:\/\/youtu.be\/HhGMD-FjXKc)<\/a><\/noscript><\/div>\n<p><\/span><\/p>\n[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]\n<p><strong>On Sound Cloud . . . <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>https:\/\/soundcloud.com\/user-688844428\/narcissism-pornography<\/p>\n[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]\n<h2>Narcissism &amp; Porn; the\u00a0Seductress that Leaves Men\u00a0Nothing<\/h2>\n<p><a title=\"Beyond Marriage Counselling\" href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/\">Published on The N\/C Marriage<\/a><\/p>\n<h3>Movie Transcript:<\/h3>\n<p><strong>STEVE:<\/strong> Hi and welcome to Our Narcissistic &amp; Codependent society.<\/p>\n<p>The whole world is financially in debt at the moment, but we see this as a mirror of our deeper emotional indebtedness.<\/p>\n<p><strong>KIM:<\/strong> Emotional debt is created in a narcissistic\/codependent society.<\/p>\n<p><em>The narcissistic pattern<\/em> is to seduce or sell the other person, but then keep taking even when they have nothing left to give in return.<\/p>\n<p>We see this quite often in our society that worships celebrities and we are expected to give these celebrities all of our time, attention, and interest \u2014 even when these celebrities don&#8217;t even know us, and what they give in return is really pretty questionable in that give and take arrangement.<\/p>\n<p>So this kind of arrangement where you just do something to seduce the other person and create an initial connection, but then keep taking and taking and expecting to be idolised, even when you really don&#8217;t have anything to give in return, obviously creates an emotional debt.<\/p>\n<p><strong>STEVE:<\/strong> That&#8217;s right, Kim. And <em>the codependent pattern<\/em> is to keep giving, even when the other person obviously doesn&#8217;t have anything to give in return.<\/p>\n<p>Similar but quite different, a codependent person is the kind of person who wants to keep building up this kind of emotional debt . . .<\/p>\n<p><strong>KIM:<\/strong> Mmm . . . \u00a0that you didn&#8217;t necessarily really ask for?<\/p>\n<p><strong>STEVE:<\/strong> That&#8217;s right. But it all comes crashing down quite badly, because it&#8217;s not really a sustainable model.<\/p>\n<p><strong>KIM:<\/strong> Both patterns are about forcing a connection that&#8217;s not really natural and it&#8217;s not really free flowing.<\/p>\n<p>Today, we are going to talk about Narcissism &amp; Porn. Two subjects that are often in the media, but rarely discussed together.<br \/>\nIs there a link?<\/p>\n<p>Steve, I know you think that there is.<\/p>\n<p><strong>STEVE:<\/strong> There\u2019s lots of links actually, Kim.<\/p>\n<p>The best place to start thinking about this is in the classical sense of narcissism.<\/p>\n<p>Everybody knows the story . . . Narcissus was cursed to fall in love with his own reflection, and that reflection was something that he fell in love with and eventually perished viewing in the pond.<\/p>\n<p>But why did that happen?<\/p>\n<p>That happened for a very good reason. Before he was cursed and before he was looking at himself in the pond, he had a lot of admirers, but he would never really connect on any genuine level with anybody in his um town or village, or wherever you want to call it . . .<\/p>\n<p><strong>KIM:<\/strong> In the story. (Laughing.)<\/p>\n<p><strong>STEVE:<\/strong> (Laughing.) In the story.<\/p>\n<p>Narcissus was someone who was trying to gain adoration from as many people as possible, but he wasn&#8217;t giving anything back in return. So it was an unequal exchange. It got to the point where there were so many unhappy people that the curse stepped in.<\/p>\n<p>He was cursed to fall in love with his own reflection.<\/p>\n<p>So, what does that tell us about porn?<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s very similar, because the reflection is something two-dimensional and porn is something very two-dimensional as well. It becomes something we can&#8217;t pull ourselves away from. It&#8217;s addictive, but it&#8217;s not nourishing, so it eventually destroys us and for men, I think it&#8217;s really important we keep talking about this because porn doesn&#8217;t offer anything in return. It is a two-dimensional experience that doesn&#8217;t allow for growth, because number 1, porn competes with the people around you, it takes a lot of time away from the things you have to do in your life, the other people in your life. It doesn&#8217;t help you become a better person or become a better negotiator . . . become a better communicator. It doesn&#8217;t give you anything, really, and so there\u2019 s a danger there.<\/p>\n<p>But the bigger danger that I\u2019d like to talk about with you now Kim, is that I think men (and women) who are addicted to porn feel as though they\u2019re in control. They feel like they can dominant the experience by being in control, by being the king by being the emperor, by being a god, perhaps. Someone who can pick and choose any type of experience they want. That is quite an unnatural experience, and it creates quite unnatural people . . .[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column css=&#8221;.vc_custom_1474509797316{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}&#8221;][vc_column_text css=&#8221;.vc_custom_1474505916436{margin-bottom: 15px !important;}&#8221;]\n<h3>Signs of Narcissism . . .<\/h3>\n[\/vc_column_text]<style>.vcex-blog-carousel.vcex_6a5987bf76d3e .entry-title{font-size:16px;}<\/style><style class=\"vcex-carousel-preload-css\">.vcex_6a5987bf76d3e{--wpex-carousel-gap:15px;}.vcex_6a5987bf76d3e{--wpex-carousel-columns:1;}.vcex_6a5987bf76d3e.wpex-carousel:not(.wpex-carousel--loaded) > *:not(:nth-child(1n+2)){display:flex!important;}@media only screen and (min-width: 480px) {.vcex_6a5987bf76d3e{--wpex-carousel-columns:2;}.vcex_6a5987bf76d3e.wpex-carousel:not(.wpex-carousel--loaded) > *:not(:nth-child(1n+3)){display:flex!important;}}@media only screen and (min-width: 768px) 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wpex-clr\"><div class=\"wpex-carousel-entry-title entry-title wpex-mb-5\"><a href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/narcissist\/signs-narcissism\/is-narcissism-healthy\/\">Healthy Narcissism?<\/a><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>[\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text css=&#8221;.vc_custom_1474514319295{margin-bottom: 60px !important;}&#8221;]\n<p><strong>KIM:<\/strong> Mmm . . .<\/p>\n<p><strong>STEVE:<\/strong> People who can be overweight and disgusting, don&#8217;t take care of themselves, don&#8217;t attempt to try and engage in community anymore because they just feel like they have porn at their disposal so they feel very powerful in that scenario where porn is available to them. So I think, Kim, that there are multi-levels of dangers there, but power is the one we need to talk about with narcissism, because somebody who is narcissistic is very obsessed with power.<\/p>\n<p><strong>KIM:<\/strong> Mmm . . . And with fantasies of delusion and fantasies of grandeur, which I guess is exactly what porn is offering in that danger area. I mean, it&#8217;s giving the illusion that you can pick and choose any sexual partner that you want from all these amazingly beautiful women and men, where really, just like the reflection in the pond that Narcissus fell in love with, in the story, it&#8217;s just a two-dimensional reflection. It can&#8217;t offer them love in return. It&#8217;s actually, in its very nature, a cold and not really natural experience.<\/p>\n<p>But this is not moralistic \u2014 this is coming from an emotional perspective.<\/p>\n<p><strong>STEVE:<\/strong> So porn also, Kim, becomes an obsession \u2014 just like it did with Narcissus in the story. It becomes an obsession where there is very little growth happening on a personal level. That is one of the things that is so important. On a personal level, we need to be able to have other people in our lives who can reflect back our behavior to us. I am very lucky \u2014 Kim and I have been together for 24 years now \u2014 so we have this great exchange where I get a lot of feedback from her, and she gets a lot of feedback from me about how it is that I&#8217;m behaving.<\/p>\n<p><strong>KIM:<\/strong> (Laughing.)<\/p>\n<p>STEVE: And how it is I relate to other people, and she can give me an objective point of view with how I relate to other people. And you know we have arguments about how we relate with each other all the time. (Laughing.)<\/p>\n<p>KIM: (Laughing.)<\/p>\n<p>STEVE: But that two-way exchange gives us that fertile ground to grow and become better people, where porn is almost the exact opposite. It&#8217;s an abyss.<\/p>\n<p>KIM: Mmm . . .<\/p>\n<p>STEVE: There\u2019s nowhere for us to go with it. It just becomes a consumption. It becomes consuming. It becomes obsessional.<\/p>\n<p>KIM: Like Narcissus&#8217; cold and empty pond that he ends up lonely and dying in the story.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You know, we hear a lot of criticism these days of kids and social media and how that is narcissistic. Teenagers taking selfies has nearly become <a href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/definition-narcissistic\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\">the definition of narcissistic<\/a>. Well, I don&#8217;t know? I think the kids are mainly taking pictures of themselves to share with each other, and even if those pictures aren&#8217;t completely realistic all the time of themselves, they\u2019re probably a lot closer to being realistic and what they are doing in sharing them is really inviting an exchange that\u2019s on an equal level with other people.<\/p>\n<p>STEVE: Yes.<\/p>\n<p>KIM: And I think they get way too much flack for that. There really should be more attention placed on the fact that this porn epidemic that we\u2019ve really got happening on the planet right now \u2014 which is a social experiment of unprecedented magnitude, and that we are really seeing some very well documented and catastrophic results from in terms of what it&#8217;s doing to divorce rates, what it&#8217;s doing to families, and particularly what it&#8217;s doing to men, to the point where you are really having a lot of men choosing to opt out from this and saying, &#8220;I don&#8217;t want to engage with this any longer&#8221;, because they see it&#8217;s hurting them.<\/p>\n<p>Hopefully from this little segment that we\u2019ve done today, we can start a broader conversion where we start making more of a link between porn and <a title=\"Signs of Narcissism\" href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/the-narcissist\/signs-of-narcissism\/\">narcissistic behavior<\/a>, and you know leave the kids and their selfies a little bit more space and a little bit more respect.<\/p>\n<p>STEVE: (Laughing.) I agree. I think we should celebrate our youth while we have it!<\/p>\n<p>KIM: Absolutely.<\/p>\n<p>STEVE: And let them have their photos, because you know before long you&#8217;re old and you&#8217;re not as photogenic as you used to be.<\/p>\n<p>But Kim, I think it&#8217;s also very important we raise another topic here \u2014 a topic that links <a href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thencmarriage\/narcissist\/signs-narcissism\/love-sex\/\">narcissism and porn<\/a>, and that topic is shame.<\/p>\n<p>KIM: Mmm . . .<\/p>\n<p>STEVE: Nobody really wants to be associated with porn. I know a lot of guys laugh about it. There are a lot of jokes about it. In our work industry, there are a lot of guys around, and every now and then they will joke about it, but it&#8217;s not something they really are very happy to be associated with in a broader context in their lives. So, you can make a small joke about it here and there, but really the story I am thinking about now Kim is back many years ago, I had an argument with Kim and I said to you hon, I said \u201cAhh yeah, well all the guys watch porn so it&#8217;s no big deal, you know? You shouldn&#8217;t really be worried about it.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>KIM: You pretended it was my problem \u2014 I was just jealous.<\/p>\n<p>STEVE: That&#8217;s right, I tried to say hey it\u2019s your problem \u2014 everybody watches it. But in fact, I remember this very clearly \u2014 you said to me, \u201cOh well i f it&#8217;s not so much of a problem, Steve, I will let [name withheld] know that you think it&#8217;s okay to be watching porn.&#8221; Now, the name withheld was somebody I was working really closely with. He was a mentor for me. He was somebody who was introducing me to some wonderful business opportunities at the time. He was somebody that I had a lot of respect for, and who had a very solid and clean-living background.<\/p>\n<p>KIM: (Laughing.) He was actually an ex-Baptist minister.<\/p>\n<p>STEVE: That&#8217;s right. And he wouldn&#8217;t have supported my views that porn was okay and that most guys were okay about it. So that did actually hit home for me, and I said, &#8220;Actually, no I don&#8217;t want to really be associated with porn.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>KIM: You were horrified about the idea of him knowing, and you actually realised then how embarrassed you were about it, really.<\/p>\n<p>STEVE: Well, and that was enough to shame me into really taking stock. And I want the guys that are listening to take that in. I mean, you really don&#8217;t want to be associated with it. It&#8217;s as common as anything. It doesn&#8217;t give you anything. It take so much away from you. So it really is something to think about, and that&#8217;s why we are talking about it on the show today.<\/p>\n<p>KIM: And of course it&#8217;s attractive. We are hard wired to be attracted to the opposite sex \u2014 well, not everyone \u2014 but to be attracted to each other sexually. 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Because, what kind of connection do we want to form with people? Do we want to learn to form connections with people that are easy and are flowing and are based on mutual attraction and mutual interest, relationships that are three-dimensional and include an emotional richness to them and depth to them that include all of our senses and also include our emotional senses.<\/p>\n<p>This is what I think we all are really longing for. We are longing to be known. We are longing to be loved. We are longing to be held. A deep and committed sexual relationship is something that doesn&#8217;t necessarily get boring over time, as I think the media and people have really portrayed it to be. Of course it changes. Of course as you have children and they grow up, and as you get older, sex isn&#8217;t&#8217; the same as it was and I think our needs change as we get older as well, and what we are looking for from it. This whole idea that we should all be running around and feeling as sexual and virile and pumped up as we were when we were in our teens or 20s is really a bit of insecurity. I think we really need to start rejecting that when that&#8217;s forced onto us \u2014 those ideas \u2014 because I think most of the people that are forcing those ideas on us are really usually trying to sell us something. And the things they are trying to sell us aren&#8217;t necessarily things that are going to nourish us, or are going to help us find that love and belonging that were really looking for.<\/p>\n<p>STEVE: The marketing world really do have a lot to answer for, because they drive a lot of our insecurities, but if we really stop and take stock, we really do know that having that strong connection with the person we love will over time build into something that is so beneficial for us. We can&#8217;t listen to the advertisers. 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When the raiders came the man and his sons, once fit and tanned wealthy landholders, were now not even fit to be taken as slaves and so were left to die in a neighbouring paddock, the laughing stock of the whole region.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>And no one lived happily ever after.\u00a0<\/em>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row]\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>[vc_row][vc_column css=&#8221;.vc_custom_1474509775315{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}&#8221;][vc_column_text css=&#8221;.vc_custom_1474523234777{margin-bottom: 25px !important;}&#8221;] Check Out Our New Audio Program on YouTube . . . https:\/\/youtu.be\/HhGMD-FjXKcVideo can&#8217;t be loaded because JavaScript is disabled: Narcissism &amp; Pornography (https:\/\/youtu.be\/HhGMD-FjXKc) [\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text] On Sound Cloud . . . https:\/\/soundcloud.com\/user-688844428\/narcissism-pornography [\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text] Narcissism &amp; Porn; the\u00a0Seductress that Leaves Men\u00a0Nothing Published on The N\/C Marriage Movie Transcript: STEVE: Hi&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":2067,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[44],"tags":[64,80,107],"post_series":[83],"class_list":["post-2043","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-signs-narcissism","tag-kim-steve-cooper","tag-our-narcissisticcodependent-society","tag-podcasts","post_series-podcasts","entry","has-media"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v28.0 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/product\/yoast-seo-wordpress\/ -->\n<title>Narcissism &amp; Porn - The Seductress Who Offers Nothing<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"The narcissistic pattern is to seduce and then keep taking, without giving anything in return. 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