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Help – I’ve read Back From the Looking Glass, but I am still having problems limiting my partner’s aggression\/passive aggression.”<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

S<\/span>ome of the steps to limit abusive behaviour in Back From the Looking Glass don’t work for everyone. \u00a0In that book,\u00a0for instance, I give advice on how to get help from the police if you need it. Some people, of course, are facing problems that are not appropriate for the police to help them with.<\/p>\n

Verbal aggression and especially passive aggression, for instance, are\u00a0things the police have a hard time dealing with. Some people may also fear their partner may lose their job, causing\u00a0their family to face financial hardship if the\u00a0police get involved. Here is my advice if you are in any\u00a0of these situations . . .<\/p>\n

If the aggression you are dealing with is minor and not serious: <\/strong>It is still important that you\u00a0work on turning your marriage around before the bad times\u00a0get worse. Please follow all of the steps, except for talking to the police, in Back From the Looking Glass. I only mention getting the police involved because we know that some people who contact us are in very dangerous situations and we have to make sure we give advice on calling in outside protection. The other steps in that book are still very powerful.<\/p>\n

Some relationships only require a small change here or there for their partner’s defences to come down, where in\u00a0other relationships the aggression is more entrenched. If you need further help after implementing all the other steps in Back From the Looking Glass, continue with the following recommendations.\u00a0. . .<\/b><\/p>\n

If the aggression\/passive aggression\u00a0you are dealing with is serious but not the type police are going to be able to help you with: <\/strong>Words hurt and verbal and emotion aggression is serious. If you are in this situation, I recommend that along with the steps in Back From the Looking Glass you also complete the exercises in the chapter on Limiting Abuse in The Love Safety Net Workbook<\/strong> . . .[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”1\/2″][vc_column_text]The Love Safety Net Workbook: <\/strong>Steps and exercise you can work on individually or as a couple that will help strengthen your family relationships. The Love Safety Net Workbook offers practical habits you can develop to help your family build emotional health and security.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][vc_column width=”1\/2″]