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Men and Women Must Organise to Defend Their Families – Part 2<\/h2>\n

Continued from Part 1<\/a>\"\"<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

W<\/span>ith so much at risk, what has stopped us from seeing we need to take family governance as seriously as we would take the governance of any business or corporation?<\/span><\/span><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

TED has become famous with the tagline ‘Ideas worth spreading.’ Today I will discuss a concept that could be tagged ‘Bad ideas worth challenging’.<\/p>\n

Don’t Let Bad Ideas Destroy Your Home<\/h3>\n

The unfortunate truth is that for every simple and effective solution, there are usually at least ten bad ideas floating around out there. Even worse, w<\/span>hen it comes to love, family, and the politics of governance in general, people tend to become emotionally attached to their bad ideas.<\/span><\/p>\n

As clearly misguided and illogical as they are, bad ideas like, ‘All you need is love’ and ‘Mother\/Father knows best’, are sometimes treated like the very meaning of life.<\/span><\/p>\n

And when it comes to the politics of governance, how emotional do people get about democracy?<\/span><\/p>\n

Better than outright tyranny and oppression certainly, but let\u2019s think how democracy might work in a family\u2026 of, say, five boys and one girl?<\/span><\/p>\n

When it comes to love, family, and the politics of governance in general, people tend to become emotionally attached to their bad ideas.<\/span><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

How should we react when decisions made in a family like this, based on majority rules, leave one person\u2019s needs unmet almost every time?<\/span><\/p>\n

The truth is that organisations comprised of members with differing needs and unequal status cannot be responsibly run on a majority rules basis. <\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s just business. <\/span><\/p>\n

But many of us feel just as emotional about democracy as we do about love.<\/span><\/p>\n

They Give Love a Bad Name<\/span><\/h3>\n

Once we talk about love, all sense and reason leave the building.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s look, for instance, at just a sample of the horrific ideas romanticism has unleashed on the world\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

Ideas that glorify vices such as self-indulgence and self-pity.<\/p>\n

Like there is something sublime or mystical in a couple dying together, or noble in a person pining their way to an early grave because of a broken heart.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ideas the most famous of the German romantics, Wagner and\u00a0Goethe themselves, by the end of their lives were mortified to have spawned.<\/span><\/p>\n

Once we talk about love, all sense and reason leave the building.<\/span><\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

The play Romeo and Juliet would have been considered a tragedy, not a romance before Wagner wrote an opera that infected the world with one of these truly bad ideas.<\/span><\/p>\n

Even when we understand logically that terrible idea like these should not interfere with decision-making we find them hard to let go of because we feel emotional about them.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Defend yourself against bad inner programming <\/span><\/h3>\n

When people become so emotionally attached to bad ideas they won\u2019t allow them to be questioned\u2014they become dangerous and not just bad.<\/span><\/p>\n

So dangerous I have come to nickname these ‘bad programmes’ or ‘thought viruses’.
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Once they begin controlling our actions, bad programmes act like malicious software\u2013raising your inner demons.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Allowed to exist unchallenged, thought viruses create suffering:<\/span><\/p>\n