{"id":6729,"date":"2017-11-23T09:25:59","date_gmt":"2017-11-22T22:25:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thelovesafetynet\/?p=6729"},"modified":"2018-11-19T21:53:46","modified_gmt":"2018-11-19T10:53:46","slug":"preparing-for-thanksgiving","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thelovesafetynet\/preparing-for-thanksgiving\/","title":{"rendered":"Preparing for Thanksgiving"},"content":{"rendered":"

A<\/span>fter a very tough year this year, I have so much to be thankful for this Thanksgiving;<\/p>\n

After having 7 tumours removed in the past 7 months, my mother is still with us; our son has settled into his new school (and finally forgiven us for having to move); Steve is excelling at his new job as hotel manager and now stepping into a leadership role with the narcissistic men in our audience who will listen.<\/p>\n

Most exciting for me (and hopefully the group) is that our daughter Julie has expressed interest in becoming my assistant. This means that after Thanksgiving I will be able to give more time to the group, while also working on new content that has been on the back burner for too long.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Julie is a very special girl and will have a lot to offer, helping us keep up with our email.<\/p>\n

Thanksgiving can be a tough time when families come together, if you live with family members who regularly disrespect you.<\/p>\n

This is where the unit work we have all done through out the year should really start to pay off.<\/p>\n

Can you spend a little time remembering the triggers you know may be coming again this year? Instead of leaving yourself open to being disrespected, I wonder if you can plan ahead with some strategies to avoid this?<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Even if you have read it before – it may pay to scan my advice on this. This used to be paid content, but now is available to anyone who is lucky enough to find it online:<\/p>\n

Prepare Emotionally for Thanksgiving<\/a><\/p>\n

The other article I posted recently on The Hard Truths About Protecting Our Children<\/a> may seem a little off topic, but after many months soul searching, I believe this an entry point to our work with the potential to trigger a protective response (that is unfortunately often lacking) in narcissistic men towards their wives and children. This may not work as well for narcissistic wives, but I will hopefully come up with something for them soon).<\/p>\n

So even if this last article (which includes Steve’s recent movies) doesn\u2019t look important to read (with everything you have to do right now). If you are married to a narcissistic husband, I wonder if you might consider forwarding this to him to read before Thanksgiving as a bid to start working from a basis of mutual respect?<\/p>\n

The holiday season, unfortunately, can also bring the pitfalls of extended family, that may seek to \u2018groom\u2019 our children for their own selfish reasons.<\/p>\n

Our family has unfortunately had first hand experience with this. Steve and I have had a close family friend (when our children were younger) recently arrested and charged with possessing child pornography.<\/p>\n

Fortunately I had my suspicions over the years and so while it was difficult to politely refuse his generosity towards us (and particularly our children), I did make sure he was given no opportunity to spend time alone with them.<\/p>\n

Steve has begun to look back now and see that a lot of his narcissistic thinking was egged on by men such as this who were actively trying to build him up and undermine my authority in a sick game of \u2018divide and rule\u2019 \u2014 with an end to win our children\u2019s affection while undermining our protective influence.<\/p>\n

If I had the chance to live those years again I would most likely have done things differently. As things stand, Steve\u2019s remorse at having fell for the games these men play, leaving me (often under emotional siege) as sole protector of our children, has now become potent fuel for his desire to lead other men not to make the same mistake.<\/p>\n

Pedophilia is more common than most people realise – so if you have children, taking the time to read up on the criminal profiling of sexual predators I link to in this article<\/a> may help you spot people in your extended social sphere that you may want to keep a close watch on.<\/p>\n

Despite the pitfalls, I hope you find the courage to reach out and connect with family this Thanksgiving. May God\u2019s grace extend through us to our families and communities around the world \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n

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Kim Cooper<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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