{"id":4672,"date":"2015-11-24T21:51:12","date_gmt":"2015-11-24T10:51:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.narcissismcured.com\/blog\/?p=4672"},"modified":"2021-03-05T15:22:02","modified_gmt":"2021-03-05T04:22:02","slug":"better-conversation-part-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thelovesafetynet\/better-conversation-part-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Better Conversation – Part 2"},"content":{"rendered":"
[vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text]I<\/span>n our last lesson, I talked about SR’s. These are standard responses or stories that people tell over and over again.<\/p>\n

In today’s lesson, I am going to share two techniques that will encourage the person you are conversing with to get out of SR mode and switch on their imagination instead.<\/p>\n

Real-time conversations\u2014as opposed to SR’s are the only place you can forge a deeper and more genuine connection and fresh memories.<\/p>\n

Beyond Social Banter<\/h2>\n

Ask Open-Ended Questions<\/h3>\n

Once you have drawn someone out conversationally you may start to get a hint of where you may find a connection. This is the time when open-ended questions can be used to lead the conversation someplace you both might find interesting.<\/p>\n

Example 1.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Friend:<\/strong> \u201cI spent the weekend rebuilding my bike.\u201d<\/p>\n

Me:<\/strong> (not interested in bikes) \u201cYou like fixing things?\u201d<\/p>\n

Friend:<\/strong> \u201cyeah I love it, you can get instructions to fix anything online now. Steve told me\u00a0you fixed your phone recently!\u201d<\/p>\n

Example 2.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Steve:<\/strong> \u201cWe went down to Wangaratta to play the Rovers that year.\u201d<\/p>\n

Me:<\/strong> (not interested in football) \u201cWhat other holidays do you remember going on when you were a kid?\u201d<\/p>\n

Steve:<\/strong> Going to the mountains was the best, you would have loved walking along the mountain streams in Jingellic.\u201d<\/p>\n

Challenge Their Creative Thinking<\/h3>\n

If the person you are talking to is complaining or just stuck on a topic that is not very inspiring, see if you can challenge them to think creatively.<\/p>\n

Example 1.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Mum:<\/strong> \u201cI can\u2019t believe what a mess they have made of our local shopping centre – I am scared to even drive into the underground car park!\u201d<\/p>\n

Me:<\/strong> \u201cI wonder how you would have built that place if they had given you the job of design it? Would you have put a garden inside or maybe some stained glass windows? What would you have done . . . really . . . ?<\/p>\n

Example 2.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Daughter:<\/strong> I can\u2019t believe that ——- (her boyfriend) is going to be away all weekend. It\u2019s not fair!<\/p>\n

Me:<\/strong> \u201cI bet you wish you could have gone with him. If you had, I wonder what you two would be doing right now?\u201d<\/p>\n

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N<\/span>ow it’s your turn. Let’s see what ideas you can come up with for some open-ended questions and creative thinking challenges?<\/p>\n

I want to hear how you are going, so please leave a comment below!<\/p>\n

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