{"id":2577,"date":"2014-11-03T19:17:10","date_gmt":"2014-11-03T08:17:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.narcissismcured.com\/blog\/?p=2577"},"modified":"2016-12-06T12:17:59","modified_gmt":"2016-12-06T01:17:59","slug":"why-cant-you-see-how-much-you-are-hurting-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thelovesafetynet\/why-cant-you-see-how-much-you-are-hurting-me\/","title":{"rendered":"Why Can&#8217;t You See How Much You Are Hurting Me?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.narcissismcured.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/emotional_faces.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright wp-image-2584 size-medium\" src=\"http:\/\/www.narcissismcured.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/emotional_faces-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"Cartoon Smiley Faces Doodles\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thelovesafetynet\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/emotional_faces-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thelovesafetynet\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/emotional_faces-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thelovesafetynet\/wp-content\/uploads\/2014\/11\/emotional_faces.jpg 346w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Linked here is a\u00a0short Emotional Intelligence quiz put together by Berkeley\u00a0University that will test how well you can read facial emotions:<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/greatergood.berkeley.edu\/ei_quiz\/\" target=\"_blank\">Emotional Intelligence Quiz<\/a><\/p>\n<p>After you have done\u00a0the quiz\u00a0please come back and say hello by letting us know how you scored\u00a0in the quiz in the comments section below!<\/p>\n<h2>Who Deserves Our Empathy?<\/h2>\n<p>Our society often\u00a0conditions us to believe we should only show empathy towards people who are good.<\/p>\n<p>Bad people, we are told, don\u2019t deserve empathy and should be punished instead.<\/p>\n<p>I want to question this thinking in my members only chapter on Empathy today . . .<\/p>\n<p>Chapter 3 &#8211; Empathy<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thelovesafetynet\/chapter-3-empathy\/\" target=\"_blank\">https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thelovesafetynet\/chapter-3-empathy\/<\/a><\/p>\n<p>I would say a person who is being selfish and irresponsible probably needs empathy more than a person who is responsible and kind.<\/p>\n<p>Because without taking the time to put ourselves in their shoes how will we ever be able to help the selfish and irresponsible people on this planet\u00a0to grow up?<\/p>\n<p>The kind of empathy I am referring to is not about compassion or sympathy. Quite the opposite, once I started putting myself in Steve&#8217;s shoes; I stopped thinking my love could heal him and saw that there were more practical steps I needed to take instead.<\/p>\n<p>Without finding a way to understand how he was feeling I don&#8217;t think I would ever have been able to help.<\/p>\n<p>Can you put yourself in your partner&#8217;s shoes for a few minutes? I wonder if there is a bit less you could ask for and something more practical and solid you could give?<\/p>\n<p>Chapter 3 &#8211; Empathy<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thelovesafetynet\/chapter-3-empathy\/\" target=\"_blank\">https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thelovesafetynet\/chapter-3-empathy\/<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Kim Cooper<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Linked here is a\u00a0short Emotional Intelligence quiz put together by Berkeley\u00a0University that will test how well you can read facial emotions: Emotional Intelligence Quiz After you have done\u00a0the quiz\u00a0please come back and say hello by letting us know how you scored\u00a0in the quiz in the comments section below! Who Deserves Our Empathy? 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