There is a danger for people getting started on our program that I want to warn you about today;<\/p>\n
\nDon\u2019t think you will be able to \u2018fix\u2018 your husband or wife’s narcissism or codependence so that \u2018hey presto\u2019 they will then be available to love and fix you in return!<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n
Because if you want to take an emotionally intelligent path to a better marriage, as unfair as it may sound, you will to need to work on building trust with your partner while you learn about loving and caring for yourself at the same time.<\/p>\n
You cannot build trust with someone if really you just want them to take care of you in return.\u00a0Doing so\u00a0will make you impatient and lack judgement in what your partner truly needs from you. This is more likely to make them feel messed with than building trust and bringing them close.<\/p>\n
This misunderstanding shows up in how many women I hear from who say challenging their man is the pillar (in the Love Safety Net Work Book<\/a>) they have the most trouble with.<\/p>\n
It seems\u00a0many women think\u00a0challenging their man is about asking him to do things\u00a0to (emotionally) take care of her better.<\/p>\n
Being good at setting challenges\u00a0is the fastest way to build attachment and trust and will bring your partner close and make you super attractive \ud83d\ude42\u00a0But it\u00a0is NOT about nagging or asking your partner to take care of you.<\/p>\n
I talk more about how to effectively set challenges for your partner in my members area today;<\/p>\n