{"id":9600,"date":"2022-01-29T07:57:30","date_gmt":"2022-01-28T20:57:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thelovesafetynet\/?page_id=9600"},"modified":"2024-02-11T13:40:01","modified_gmt":"2024-02-11T02:40:01","slug":"family-fundamentals","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/narcissismcured.com\/thelovesafetynet\/","title":{"rendered":"The Love Safety Net"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Why Counsellors, Psychologists & Psychiatrists Come to Us<\/a><\/span><\/sup><\/span><\/p>\n[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column width=”2\/3″][vc_column_text]Hi,<\/span> we are Kim and Steve Cooper, and this is The Love Safety Net Members Area. For 15 years, we have been online, offering an inexpensive and private alternative to marriage counselling and divorce.<\/p>\n

Our Story<\/h3>\n

Many years ago, Steve worked as a barman and came home drunk most nights\u2014long after our children were asleep. I was left at home\u2014usually with no money\u2014and three kids, under ten, that I somehow had to feed and entertain.<\/p>\n

I started to look online for help with how to deal with a husband who lacked empathy.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][vc_column width=”1\/3″][vc_column_text][vc_single_image image=”9848″][\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row css_animation=”none” column_spacing=”10″ equal_height=”yes” tablet_fullwidth_cols=”yes” css=”.vc_custom_1642384858747{background-color: #ffffff !important;}”][vc_column][vc_column_text]\u2018Change the locks\u2019 was the only advice I received. I was told repeatedly that there was no chance of Steve maturing into a responsible husband and father and that I was delusional if I didn’t attempt to block him out of my life.<\/p>\n

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I<\/span>s your marriage in trouble? If so, you are in worse danger than you might realise. The world of marriage counselling, police intervention, apprehended violence orders, and family law court will often spend more effort putting walls up than it will help you to resolve the conflict. But what happens if the conflict is not resolved?<\/span><\/p>\n[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row css=”.vc_custom_1643763064747{margin-top: 5px !important;}”][vc_column][vc_column_text]\n

Whether you stay or go, statistics show that resolving the conflict<\/em> is always the best outcome.
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How We Resolved Our Differences<\/h2>\n[\/vc_column_text][vc_column_text]Once I determined that simply separating would not solve our problems, I discovered that the business world had far better advice\u2014on just about every level than the soft-boiled romantic platitudes that families are generally offered.<\/p>\n

I stopped begging Steve to change and started taking action.[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row css=”.vc_custom_1643497508471{margin-bottom: 25px !important;border-top-width: 1px !important;border-right-width: 2px !important;border-bottom-width: 2px !important;border-left-width: 1px !important;padding-top: 0px !important;padding-right: 15px !important;padding-bottom: 5px !important;padding-left: 15px !important;border-left-color: #949199 !important;border-left-style: groove !important;border-right-color: #949199 !important;border-right-style: groove !important;border-top-color: #949199 !important;border-top-style: groove !important;border-bottom-color: #949199 !important;border-bottom-style: groove !important;border-radius: 15px !important;}”][vc_column][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1670103648279{margin-right: px !important;margin-left: px !important;}”]\n

Help! My Family Is In Crisis<\/h3>\n

The Love Safety Net is a family-run, independent business that does not serve corporate, government or legal agencies but speaks directly to individuals and families in crisis. For 15 years, we have been online offering an inexpensive and private alternative to divorce and marriage counselling.<\/p>\n

The experience shared with us by our readers has provided nearly 2 thousand positive testimonials. Our work also helped change the definition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder in the current Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders<\/span>, which now admits the need for more research.<\/p>\n

We have raised a lantern of hope for families that were once told that separation\u2013without closure\u2013was their only path forward, even when the statistics show the genuine dangers of this path.<\/p>\n

Like most essential things in life, still, there are no easy answers. Running a successful marriage takes the same level of skill and commitment as running any successful organisation of people.<\/p>\n

Similar to deciding to get healthy and lose weight, the work involved in getting your family better organised will take commitment. Yet, just like the dangers of heart disease and obesity, the risks you will face if your family remains in conflict may be life-threatening.<\/p>\n

If you don’t decide to take action, the conflict in your home will most likely escalate.<\/p>\n

Should I Stay or Should I Go?<\/h4>\n

Couples cannot always avoid separation and divorce. However, parents who can resolve the conflict will better protect themselves and their children.<\/p>\n

Statistics on child welfare show that, whether you stay or go, resolving the conflict should be your goal.<\/p>\n

Either way, our advice will help your life move forward to somewhere more positive and safe.<\/p>\n

Beyond Psychology<\/h4>\n

Because psychology tends to dominate the sphere of marriage advice, narcissism<\/strong> and codependency<\/strong> were the main concepts I encountered when I began searching for help. As the focus of the online conversation about marriage politics, these terms became a central feature in our work.<\/p>\n

Our work includes psychology, neuroscience and emotional intelligence training, yet the principles we offer are practical. Our steps and exercises focus on the ‘nuts and bolts’ of running a loving and functional home.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Psychology helped us identify the harmful stereotypes we had fallen into, yet our goal was always to overcome our differences and organise our lives.
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As our work matures, it becomes less about psychology<\/em> and more about marriage politics<\/strong><\/em>. Not the politics of government but the personal politics of running a strong and successful family.<\/em><\/p>\n

Steve and I are not experts; we are trailblazers. Our books share the successful steps we have discovered on our journey alongside our failures and frustrations. Our family’s journey has been challenging and messy at times. Still, we are proud of our independence and the raw honesty this has allowed us. We hope our trailblazing will help your \u2018family\u2019s recovery\u2019 be faster and easier than ours.<\/p>\n

Our family are not perfect, but together, we are always learning and growing.<\/a>[\/vc_column_text][\/vc_column][\/vc_row][vc_row][vc_column][vc_column_text child_inherit_color=”” italic=””]\n

I’m Ready for a Better Marriage! Where do I start?<\/h2>\n

Let’s take a look at a few different scenarios and see which is closest to your situation\u00a0. . .[\/vc_column_text]

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My Partner is Often Aggressive or Passive Aggressive and My Marriage is in Serious Trouble!<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I<\/span>f your fights escalate out of control and go on for hours (or days) and your partner has become emotionally or physically aggressive, the best place to start is for you to work through the steps in Back From the Looking Glass . . . this is NOT a book to share with your partner but one you should work through on your own.<\/em>[\/vc_column_text]